The Art of Designing Your Life

I have accomplished this 4 different times, I think at first it was just luck but now I think I am on to something.

The most recent example and how I arrived to DC was about 4 years ago.  I was working as an Assistant Director of Admissions at Univ. of DE and loving life.  I had an awesome house, roommates who were more like family, the car I always wanted and a new puppy. Life was exactly how I imagined it.  That was until we hit reading season which involved 3 months of seclusion reading thousands of (for the most part) generic and boring college essays.  I was a mover and a shaker and could not be tied down to a desk for that many hours.  No thank you. I wanted to return to my life of teaching Health and PE and coaching. I always thought admissions work would just be a stop on my trip to awesomeness.  It was a super valuable job at learning so much in so little time, but it was time to move on.

I decided I would find a job at a prestigious private school in a cool and liberal city where I could be my complete self, gay and all and it would be awesome.  I could  teach Health and PE the way I thought it should be taught.  I would influence some of the our future leaders, maybe even the president’s daughter.  That’s so funny cause just yesterday Joe Biden walked into our gym to watch his granddaughter play a basketball game against our school.  It took all my effort not to run over and give him a hug.  We have that Delaware connection so we are like Bros and I call him Joe. In my head we are old buddies…being in my head is so entertaining… Anywho, i digress 

I also ended up teaching the president’s daughter Sasha some volleyball when her high school varsity team lost to my team in the tournament quarter finals.  Sadly the Obama’s were not there because also in my head, Michelle and I are besties. 

My point is, I pretty much got everything that I wanted, it was like the school I work for was created from my mind, it formed the day I went on that walk with little max and sat on the rock by the water and dreamed my future awesome life.  It’s kind of creepy to think how on the money it all turned out.  

So now after 4 amazing years at this awesome school and the opportunity to live in our nations capital.  It’s time to paint the next new phase in my life.  So far each new phase has been a step up from the last and I expect this one to be same.  Georgetown Day School gave me the opportunity to develop into an expert in my field, an accomplished coach, and respected colleague among cerebral giants.  The students are one of a kind, and will grow up to throw down against the Donald Trumps of this world and win.  They will make this world a better place and maybe bring back some much needed balance. 

I have absolutely no clue what I will do next.  I am brain storming, playing with the colors on my palette.  I know it will be great, I also know to be more specific.  This is one of the fun parts of life, being the architect or painter of the life you choose the live.  It’s not a perfect science, it’s not a science at all.  However, I am noticing a pattern and I am going to go with it.

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Pura Vida… 

What is TICOS PACE??

Playa Mujeres, Christmas vacation

Playa Mujeres, Christmas vacation

TICOS PACE is a lifestyle…A knockout combo of “pura vida” and let’s get stuff done!  And to help me explain…a little story I call…

Stop Working Like a ‘Gringo’

It was the summer before his junior year of high school and the summer before his first job.  Alcides (Owl-See-This) attended a small private american school in Tres Rios, Costa Rica known as Marian Baker School or MBS for short.   That upcoming  school year the school would participate in two Central American Sport tournaments.  Since Alcides’s only reason for attending school in his mind was to play sports, there was no way he was going to miss the chance to participate.  However, since his mom could not even afford to pay the tuition, paying for two tournaments was out of the question.  So, that summer Alcides would work the grounds of his school inexchange for payment to his beloved AASCA tournaments.  After completing day 1 of work …he quit.  Or at least that’s what he told his mother.  The manual labor was some sort of cuel torture and physically could not be sustained the entire summer -I was such weak sauce haha-  Spend 6 hours pulling the mower up and down those hills, then when you finish, sand some chairs, then sand some rusty chain link fence (cause you going to paint it later), then when you are done, keep going.  Then, won’t you know it, the grass would grow back and the whole process would repeat itself.  No way…this was not possible, not for Alcides.  Good thing Alcides has a wise mother…wise enough to keep him in that school even though it was well beyond her means.  She looked at him, smiled and calmly stated, “Stop working like a gringo.”  Her advice was to slow down the pace and enjoy the process.  When you finish one task, take a breathe, be proud, take a walk, and then when you feel ready return back to the next task.  Alcides returned the next day and applied the “TICOS PACE.”  He survived the summer and made it to his beloved tournaments a little stronger and a bit wiser.

Mom encouraged me to enjoy the process and work at a pace that was sustainable…a pace that would allow me to complete my task with more focus and enjoyment along the way.  In her view “gringos” or people from the states have an excellent work ethic, but almost to the extreme, so much that many forget to enjoy the process and lose sight of what really is important in this life.

TICOS PACE is a lifestyle of dedication, focus and balance.  Follow me as I do my best to apply this easy going and focused perspective.  I feel very proud of everything I have accomplished thus far, knocking out each goal I have set for myself.  Now after some TOE (Time on Earth) -30 years-I have some stories to share, opinions to make, and guidance to provide.

This is a lifestyle blog…on teaching, coaching, sports, travel, dog ownership, movement, fitness, food and so much more.  It’s my art of happiness and crushing your goals while laughing and having a blast along the way…oh and you look and feel good too.  Let’s do this!


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